Love And Sex In Chaotic Days
2021-02-01 | by CusiGO
In the Orthodox Jewish community where Tamara Tenenbaum (32) grew up at the age of 12, girls could not have contact with boys. “We didn’t kiss each other, we couldn’t play any games involving touching each other, we didn’t shake hands. Therefore, they have the right to marry. The orthodox bride has no hugs, no caresses, no kisses, “she describes the end of love in her article. Seix barral. There was more freedom in the secular world she knew in high school, but the couple seemed to be “the only way to understand love.”. Today, this philosopher, teacher, poet and journalist believes that this paradigm is increasingly questioned, and advocates that “there are thousands of choices, thousands of ways of happiness and coexistence.”.
“The religious belief of the secular girls I met at school was love,” he wrote. “When I came to the secular world, I began to observe and think about the survival instinct I saw. The first thing that catches my attention is that we’ve been talking about men, and they don’t have, or very few. I began to hear their conversation. In high school, they talked more about heavy metals, guitars, football, computers… “He said in a bar at Crespo villa near Buenos Aires. “I also realized that we were very concerned about what they thought of us, and they didn’t care too much, which defined our self-esteem,” he recalled, after teenagers read the link for the first time.
She converted herself to a newly discovered religion, but kept asking herself questions that have not yet been answered. “I don’t know what kind of relationship is closest to me, whether it’s monogamous, open, stable or transient. “I don’t know how the conflict between the desire for novelty and the desire for warmth is resolved,” he admits in the book Her article, published in the seventh edition in Argentina, has been interpreted as a manifesto of a generation of young women who, like her, rethink traditional structures and seek to build new relationships.
Love doesn’t have to be for a lifetime, even if everything revolves around it. “When a woman has a partner, she doesn’t date friends anymore. This couple is no longer the center of everything, “he said, establishing a distance between millennials and centenarians (born from the mid-1990s to the beginning of this century) and their predecessors. “Our parents may find it strange that a person and a friend go on holiday, but we are looking for other connections with other communities, and I think if we succeed in building it, it will end the couple’s hyperinflation.”
Nevertheless, he believes that the reason why the ideal of romantic love can last is that it has been renewed. Today, maybe no one in Argentina is interested in a 50 year old marriage, wearing a ring and a white skirt, but girls do want your boyfriend to go to the Caribbean and put your picture on instagram. “Previously ideal family happiness, today is an ideal consumption perfect couple,” he reflected.
In making important decisions, she believes that nothing is more difficult for her generation than to be or not to be a mother. “Some of my friends often say (why lie, I sometimes say that) that they want to avoid making decisions, having unwanted pregnancies, or knowing that they can’t be pregnant, and then let our bodies make decisions for us,” tenanbaum wrote, who is a couple and has no children.
The philosopher’s sea of doubts and possibilities contrasts sharply with the rigid rules of orthodox society, where he grew up with his two sisters in the 11 year old community of posenio. “Orthodox Jews have clear rules for everything: food, clothing, the way they get along with the opposite sex, and even how to manage their menstruation,” she said. When it comes to raising women, “they idealize the family, take care of children and housework, but have no husband, love or partner.”. Tenenbaum, an orphan from the age of five, explained that as she grew older, her mother allowed them to relax some rules.
At the age of 32, the author did not hesitate to reply that she preferred the secular world she lived in now to the religious world of her childhood. “I feel much more free,” he concluded. However, salvation is the most carefree way to solve maternal problems. “I see my friends, who have started to have children and are very enslaved. You have to get up, start making organic porridge, use diapers… 11 mothers are not like that because they have 12 children. The small ones are taken care of by the big ones. They do well, just like we eat chocolate and watch TV. As long as they all go to school standing up, they will be satisfied. “